Why you should THINK like a MONK….

By Jernavis Draughn

Charles Horton is quoted for saying, “I’m not what I think I am, and I am not what you think I am. I am what I think you think I am.” Our self-perception of who we think we are is sometimes based on how other people define us. We become what we believe and do. Writing a new story of who we want to become, is the first step to breaking negative beliefs we have about ourselves. You have to divorce your story and marry the TRUTH. They say the truth will set you free, I believe the truth creates clarity for you to live a narrower life. Therefore, I believe real freedom is having a true sense of “self-awareness”. It is acknowledging who you truly are, understanding your strengths and weaknesses, and beginning the process of working on them daily.

Fear. False. Evidence. Appearing. Real. Seneca believed we suffer more in imagination than reality. In the book, “Think like a monk”, by Jay Shetty, he defines our four key motivations for life:

  1. Fear. We are driven by sickness, poverty, and fear of hell or death.  
  2. Desire. We seek personal gratification through success, wealth, and pleasure.
  3. Duty. We are motivated by gratitude, responsibility, and a desire to do the right thing.
  4. Love. We are compelled by caring for others and the urge to help them.

There is a quote that says, “you can’t be anything you want, but you can be everything you are.” Shetty discusses a plethora of successful habits that can help you win the morning, overcome negative thoughts and beliefs, discover your purpose, build healthier relationships, gain more personal confidence, improve our character and much more.

Here’s a few key takeaways from the book:

-Your passion is for you, your purpose is for others.

-Location has energy; time has memory.

-Change happens with small steps and big priorities.

-We have seventy thousand separate thoughts daily.

-Our mind is consistently predicting what is going to happen next.

-You are who you are when no one is watching.

-People come into your life for a reason, season, or lifetime.

-Trust is a daily practice.

Five primary motivations for connection: physical connection, material, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual.

– “Love is the absence of judgement.’-Dalai Lama

-Until you heal your wounds from the past, you will continue to bleed.

-True service does not expect or even want anything in return.

“Think like a monk,” was a great read. We are all on the journey of discovering our purpose. We tend to chase meaningless possessions that do not help us become the best version of ourselves. Who we become is a direct reflection of who we believe we are. We become what we do. Life allows us to choose what path we want to take. Self-awareness is a superpower that most people will never cultivate. It is the GPS that helps you make better decisions and create a vision for your life. Self- awareness helps you find your purpose. Mark Cuban is coined for saying, “don’t follow your passion, follow your efforts”. If you fall in love with the process, your journey of personal growth will never end.

Quote of the Day: “Change begins with the words inside of our head.”

The Power of DAILY RITUALS!

By Jernavis Draughn

What you do DAILY will expand! From our consistent actions, behaviors and thoughts, we are unconsciously creating our life. Oprah once said, “what we dwell on is what we become”. The main reason we NEED to create successful daily habits. Have you ever paid attention to your daily rituals? From the moment you wake up, everything we do is a HABIT, a learned behavior. “Chains of habit are too light to be felt, until they’re too HEAVY to be broken.”-Warren Buffett

Aristotle was one of the first leaders of teaching to recognize that our success in anything we do is a result of our daily rituals. He once said, “We are what we do repeatedly. Excellence then is not an act, but a habit.” Most people are unaware of what they do, why they do it and the results it’s producing in their life.

Can you name 3 positive rituals or routines that’s creating success in your life today? W.H. Audent once said, “Routine in an intelligent man, is a sign of ambition.” In the book Daily Rituals, by Mason Currey, he displays some of the highest achievers rituals that helped them reach their goals.

Benjamin Franklin                                                                                                                    -He would schedule his day out until he went to bed.

-Each week was devoted to a particular virtue, temperance, cleanliness, moderation. He would track them on his calendar.

-He believed if he could maintain his devotion to one virtue for an week, it would become a habit.

Beethoven                                                                                                                                        -Kept a pencil and a couple of sheets of music paper in his pocket, to record chance musical thoughts.

Maya Angelo                                                                                                                                 -She would write consistently from a hotel or motel room. Every writing session she would include a dictionary, a bible, a deck of cards and a bottle of sherry.

Alexzander Graham Bell                                                                                                         -He would work 22 hours straight without sleep on  some days.

Vincent Van Gogh                                                                                                                      -He worked from 7am-6pm nonstop barely pausing to eat.

Andy Warhol                                                                                                                                 -Recorded his life by phone daily from 1976-1987. For a daily 24 hour period, he would keep record of the people he saw, his money spent, gossip he heard and parties he attended.

 Twyla Tharp                                                                                                                                -She begins each day with a 5am workout for 2 hours.

 Stephen King                                                                                                                               -He writes every day, even birthdays and holidays. His daily writing quota is two thousand words.

Here’s a few successful principles that I’ve learned from reading about the daily rituals of some of the greatest minds of our time. I’ve implemented these principles below and it has increased my productivity in all areas of my life.

  1. Be committed to doing the WORK. Showing up daily and enjoying the process.
  2. Discover your PURPOSE. Remember your passion is a preview of your PURPOSE!
  3. Love your CRAFT. It shouldn’t be work to you. Honestly, you should get lost in working on your craft. Time disappears!
  4. Create your own INSPIRATION & MOTIVATION! You are your own self-starter.
  5. Plan your DAY the night before. Preparation is key.
  6. Get up early! The early bird gets the worm.
  7. Create successful habits and routines for themselves.

Quote of the Day: “Routine in an intelligent man, is a sign of ambition.”-W.H. Auden