Why you should THINK like a MONK….

By Jernavis Draughn

Charles Horton is quoted for saying, “I’m not what I think I am, and I am not what you think I am. I am what I think you think I am.” Our self-perception of who we think we are is sometimes based on how other people define us. We become what we believe and do. Writing a new story of who we want to become, is the first step to breaking negative beliefs we have about ourselves. You have to divorce your story and marry the TRUTH. They say the truth will set you free, I believe the truth creates clarity for you to live a narrower life. Therefore, I believe real freedom is having a true sense of “self-awareness”. It is acknowledging who you truly are, understanding your strengths and weaknesses, and beginning the process of working on them daily.

Fear. False. Evidence. Appearing. Real. Seneca believed we suffer more in imagination than reality. In the book, “Think like a monk”, by Jay Shetty, he defines our four key motivations for life:

  1. Fear. We are driven by sickness, poverty, and fear of hell or death.  
  2. Desire. We seek personal gratification through success, wealth, and pleasure.
  3. Duty. We are motivated by gratitude, responsibility, and a desire to do the right thing.
  4. Love. We are compelled by caring for others and the urge to help them.

There is a quote that says, “you can’t be anything you want, but you can be everything you are.” Shetty discusses a plethora of successful habits that can help you win the morning, overcome negative thoughts and beliefs, discover your purpose, build healthier relationships, gain more personal confidence, improve our character and much more.

Here’s a few key takeaways from the book:

-Your passion is for you, your purpose is for others.

-Location has energy; time has memory.

-Change happens with small steps and big priorities.

-We have seventy thousand separate thoughts daily.

-Our mind is consistently predicting what is going to happen next.

-You are who you are when no one is watching.

-People come into your life for a reason, season, or lifetime.

-Trust is a daily practice.

Five primary motivations for connection: physical connection, material, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual.

– “Love is the absence of judgement.’-Dalai Lama

-Until you heal your wounds from the past, you will continue to bleed.

-True service does not expect or even want anything in return.

“Think like a monk,” was a great read. We are all on the journey of discovering our purpose. We tend to chase meaningless possessions that do not help us become the best version of ourselves. Who we become is a direct reflection of who we believe we are. We become what we do. Life allows us to choose what path we want to take. Self-awareness is a superpower that most people will never cultivate. It is the GPS that helps you make better decisions and create a vision for your life. Self- awareness helps you find your purpose. Mark Cuban is coined for saying, “don’t follow your passion, follow your efforts”. If you fall in love with the process, your journey of personal growth will never end.

Quote of the Day: “Change begins with the words inside of our head.”

Why CULTURE eats strategy for BREAKFAST…!

By Jernavis Draughn

We hear the term culture used often in the world of business, sports, school and the military. Studies show the best companies that provide the best services and products have a great culture that everyone believes in. Same for the sports teams that consistently make playoffs and win championships. We live in a world where many companies are selling a five-step process to losing weight, dieting, working out, and getting rich. Online marketing is prominent for selling quick fix products or services that lead to broken promises. The longest road to success is a shortcut. These quick tactics and strategies will help create success, but not sustain it. In the book Culture Code by Daniel Coyle, he defines “Culture as a set of living relationships working toward a shared goal.” A great culture creates an environment where everyone feels safe and connected.

Here’s some questions you can ask for creating a culture:

  1. Are we connected?
  2. Do we share a future?
  3. Are we safe?

Daniel Coyle, discusses five keys to creating a successful team:

  1. Name and rank your priorities. Ex: Targets, Goals, Purpose, Vision and Mission
  2. Be 10x clear about your priorities as you think you should be. Know your why for any product or service you provide in the marketplace.
  3. Figure out where your team aims for proficiency and where it aims for creativity. Give autonomy and hold people accountable for providing or creating excellence in every area.
  4. Embrace the use of catchphrases. Our organization has its own mantras that defines our purpose, vision, mission and beliefs. Ex: Make Success a routine, Good is the enemy to great, Success leaves clues.
  5. Measure what really matters. Figure out what actions, behaviors, and your ideal teammate you need to create lasting success in your organization.
  6. Use Artifacts. Use anything that can create success mindsets, behaviors and inspire your teammates to take action.
  7. Focus on bar-setting behaviors. Praise behaviors that embody your organizations culture, beliefs and core values.

Peter Drucker was the one who coined the adage that “Culture eats strategy for breakfast.” We are in a day and time where people truly care about the mission and purpose your organization is providing. Potential employees really read your mission and vision statement to see if it aligns with their personal purpose before applying for the position. There’s no hiding what you truly stand for and your beliefs since social media has made it impossible to have any privacy. The one thing I’ve learned from reading the book “Culture Code”, is where people feel safe and connected to one another, amazing things can happen. It doesn’t matter if it’s an organization, family, sports team, school, charity, or relationship; the culture will reflect your leadership and create the positive or negative results.  

Quote of the Day: “Your brand is what everyone says about you when you’re not in the room.” -Jeff Bezos