3 Reasons “WHY” we ACT the way we do…

Are our behaviors and actions programed?  Are we programed by our upbringing? By family, friends or culture? Studies show we are all driven by six human needs: Certainty, Uncertainty, Growth, Significance, Contribution, Love/Connection.

One of these human needs inspires and motivates our daily actions. These needs propels us to reach what we truly want in life. “Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself and know that everything in this life has a purpose.”-Elizabeth Kubler-Ross.  After reading the book, “The Thinkers Way, by John Chaffe, I learned there’s three reasons why people do what they do.

  1. Human Nature: People are born with certain basic instincts that influence and determine how they behave.
  2. Psychological Forces: People are governed by psychological forces, many of them unconsciously cause them to think, feel, and act in a certain way. These actions are direct results of deep psychological impulses that have been formed by an individual earliest relationships and experiences.
  3. Social Dynamics: We are social creatures that are greatly influenced by the people around us. The need to conform or be accepted by our peer groups and family, weighs heavily on most of our life decisions. These social needs determine our behavior and define who we are as an individual.

Take time to look at your daily habits, rituals, the people you hang out with, and your response when you get upset. These behaviors all stem from what you have been exposed to because we are all products of our environment. Aristotle said, “We are what we repeatedly do, excellence is not an act but a habit.”

Quote of The Day: “We don’t see things as they ARE, we see things as we ARE.”-Anais Nin

Book recommendation: The Thinkers Way: By John Chaffe

 

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