Change is inevitable, but progress is not. The new year is here, and most people are focusing on their new year resolutions. I believe change starts with one simple DECISION. Do I truly want to change? Is what I’m looking to change important enough for me to change my lifestyle, mindset, routine or ritual? Has my behavior caused me enough pain that I NEED to change? Am I too comfortable with my current situation that change is not a MUST? We change in a moment. Change doesn’t’ take long, it happens instantly when we make a commitment to our commitments. Here’s what I’ve learned about behavior “change”. Meaningful behavior change is very hard to do, and no one can make us change unless we truly want to CHANGE.
Our environment drives our behavior. Learn to control and create a healthy environment. Who we associate with, eat, learn from, grow into, religious and limiting beliefs are created by our environment. There’s an adage that says, show me your friends and I’ll show you your future. We become who we consistently hang out with and do daily. In the book Triggers by Marshal Goldsmith, he explains that we all have behavior triggers. He explains, it’s any stimulus that impacts our behavior. To avoid undesirable behavior, we must remove ourselves from hanging with people that live that lifestyle and then change those environments where it is most likely to occur. Goldsmith discusses we have four options in pursuing any type of behavior change.
Creating. Represents the positive
elements that we want to create in our future.
Preserving. Represents the
positive elements that we want to eliminate in our future.
Eliminating. Represents the
elements that we want to eliminate in the future.
Accepting. Represents the
negative elements that we need to accept in the future.
Asking yourself what you need to create,
preserve, eliminate, and accept in your life is the first step to changing your
behavior. Psychologist Carol Dweck once said, “Becoming is better than being.” Whoever
you want to become, improve in or accomplished will require some type of change
in your life. The questions that will start your journey of change will be, are
you ready to make a real decision and are you committed to not quitting on
Word of the Day: “Changing your words,
will change your WORLD.”
We all are in a personal battle against TIME
and CHANGE. How we value our time will produce the change we want in our lives.
They both are symbiotic with each other, from the standpoint that we don’t have
any control over the speed or impact on how they will affect us. Change is inevitable,
but progress is not. We know time never stops for no one. You can plan how to
use time effectively and manage change. Most people don’t plan to fail but fail
to plan. Without a plan, time and change will ruining you. The only defense
against change is planning what we want our lives to look like. Don’t wait for
change to happen. Don’t be a victim of change. The key is to change before your
force too. People often say, “I don’t have the time to do it”, or “There’s not
enough hours in the day”. We all have victimized ourselves to believe we don’t
have enough time to complete something. In the world we live in today, our time
is freely being stolen from us. Time is the one of the most valuable assets we
have. By the grace of God if you woke up today, your blessed with the opportunity
to maximize your time to the best of your ability.
You can’t save time, but you can invest it wisely.
What are you investing your time in daily? Do you have a plan for your life? Do
you have daily, monthly or yearly goals? Are you afraid of change? What have
you changed about yourself, habits or character lately? How do you define
change? I believe real change is a change in behavior. Meaning your actions, mindsets,
and decisions are different. When was last time someone has complimented you about
a positive change you’ve made in your life? Your life is your karma. It’s a
direct reflection on how you have used your time.
Here’s 3 easy ways to manage time
Monitor daily where your investing your time in the most. Where your focused goes, your energy flows. Keep track of your daily activities and accomplishments
Plan your day the night before. What gets measured gets done. I’ve learned what gets written down gets accomplished.
Change before your READY! This is something I’m working on DAILY. As a leader, in business, life, and relationships. Focus on improving daily in every facet of your life. Commit to “CANI”, constant and never-ending improvement.
Robin Sharma, once said, “what you do daily is your life in miniature.” We all are given the same 24 hours daily. What we do with our time will essentially determine our future. Make change your daily vitamin. Look at change in a positive light and yearn to make it habit. Les Brown once said, “the graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry out their dream.” Learn to maximize your time, while accepting change with an open mind to continually grow.
Quote of the Day: “A man who dares to
waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life.” -Charles Darwin